Today, I've been thinking about regrets. Do I have any? What would I take back if I oould? What would I choose to do again?
Would I still take Religious Studies in University? Would I still have sold my first house to move to an apartment? Would I still take the job with the Govt? Would I still have stopped playing Ringette when I was 14? Would I still have gone out with my first serious boyfriend?
What is regret? Is it hindsight? Or is it more? Is it a feeling of loss of taking the wrong road? If I chose differently on just one of the above parts of my life how much more would have changed? What would I have changed though--what would I alter? If I hadn't taken Religious Studies what would I have taken? English or Education or Anthropology? Would I still have discovered or felt my call to ministry? Would my call have been to a different vocation like teaching?
Do I regret things that are happening right now? Do I regret sending our son to Nursery? Do I regret planning this trip to Calgary instead of putting money on our debt? Do I regret gaining all this weight? *Sigh* It's like playing the 'what if' game, except I do it all the time. Over and over and over and over again in my head.
Do others do this too? Or am I alone in the pseudo regrets?
4 comments:
I stopped carrying my regrets with me a long time ago. It only made me unhappy. It's hard, but sometimes letting go is the best thing you can do.
What helps is to remember that If I hadn't experienced/done everything that I have up until this point - i would be the person I am today (and I quite like me).
Definitely not alone. And I do have regrets. But since I can not go back on them I don't harbor the stress the 'what if's' cause. I just realize that I need to make wiser choices each step forward. ;)
What I try to do is look at the situation I may be regretting and try to figure out what I learned from that experience. I tell myself that if I learned something from it, it was a worthwhile experience. Kind of like Jessie said, I wouldn't be the person I am today without that experience.
It's human nature. We all do it. You're not alone. But it's best to think about the future and where you want to be instead.
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